Jan 18, 2022
Do you ever look in the mirror and
wonder
...why am i not further ahead, or
think...
...I thought I'd be closer to my goals?
Maybe you've suffered some setback
lately...
Maybe you are not happy or satisfied with your
progress in career, business or relationships
Or maybe you just continue to want
more...
Well, you are not alone.
Most high achievers feel this way
But why do we continue to question our
progress...
Welcome back to the Daily Mastermind...My name is
George Wright III, I'm your host...
Today on the podcast I want to look at this topic of
Expectations...
...and suggest some solutions for you to overcome the
doubts and frustrations
Quote of the day
Les Brown- Live Full & Die Empty
Les is one of the greatest examples of
this...
I remember one time he was out visiting my company in
Utah....lunch
He had story after story after story...and who can
forget his laugh...right?
Anyway, lets talk about feelings that arise in every
entrepreneur or high achiever
feelings of doubt, regret, frustration
We talk about enjoying or focusing on the journey but
we fail to see the "journey" as it is
...what do i mean by that...explain
When I would question progress, My mentor Robert
Stuberg would always say to me things like...
"look at all the progress you have made"...he would
point out this and that and this and that
I would slowing and reluctantly acknowledge the truth
he was telling, but almost reluctantly
Why is this? Why is there always a sense of
dissatisfaction with progress we make?
...does that sound familiar to you?
I believe it is for several reasons...
1- unrelenting standards we place on ourselves
(confidence, self esteem, lofty goals)
2- constant focus on the future
3- inability to recognize the little
wins
First, we spend most of our days striving, achieving,
stretching...to grow right?
...this is good...to a point...
We must learn to temper that success mindset with
"realistic standards"
...lets talk about realistic standards
DISCUSSION
Ultimately we must lead ourselves to a place of
Blissful Dissatisfaction
Second, we need to realize that our constant focus of
the future sometimes robs us of the joy of the
present.
Awareness is the #1 key to fixing
this...
..become aware of missing the present and you will
become more present.
create daily and weekly rituals to become Mindful,
Focused, Clear and Present
Finally, we MUST find ways to not only "enjoy and
focus on" the journey..
...we must also see the journey as it truly
is...
...so much so that we start to identify the Wins, the
Experience, the Brilliance of the Present
*the present moment is the ONLY reality that
exists
Ryan Holiday, one of my favorite authors wrote a book
called the Obstacle is the way.
In this book he talks about how the obstacles in our
life truly are the solutions to our problems. I think this
principle holds true for our inability to see the Present in its
true form as well. He says...
"No one is talking glass‐half‐full‐style platitudes
here. This must be a complete flip. Seeing through the negative,
past its underside, and into its corollary: the positive."
– Ryan Holiday
"It’s one thing to not be overwhelmed by obstacles, or
discouraged or upset by them. This is something that few are able
to do. But after you have controlled your emotions, and you can see
objectively and stand steadily, the next step becomes possible: a
mental flip, so you’re looking not at the obstacle but at the
opportunity within it." – Ryan Holiday
I think that when we truly start seeing the present
moment progress we are making...
...it becomes the gateway to even greater success for
many many reasons
gratitude
self confidence
appreciation
standards met
enjoyment of journey
...and yet it also motivates us to do even
more...
Let me give you a simple strategy I picked up from
Ryan Holiday...
Amor Fati...a Stoic Philosophy known as "Love of
Fate"
The great German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche would describe his formula for
human greatness as amor fati—a love of fate. “That one wants nothing to be
different, not forward, not backwards, not in all eternity. Not
merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it….but love
it.”
Ryan Holiday goes on to say
Love whatever life throws your way. When life punches you in
the face, smile back. When struck by misfortune, don’t resist or
ignore your frustration. Instead, accept it, feel it, then flip it
on its head and learn to love your situation. You’ll only spot
opportunity in an obstacle if you adopt an ‘Amor Fati’
attitude.
When a setback occurs, author Ryan Holiday says, "The
first thought should not be, 'I'm okay with this,' or, 'I think I
feel good about this,' but, 'I feel great about this.' Because if
it happened, then it was meant to happen, and I am glad that it did
when it did. I am meant to make the best of it."
I believe that when we not only learn to accept our
situations, progress and little wins...
...but we learn to LOVE OUR FATE...our awareness takes
on a whole new perspective
...and ironically, we will also see far greater
amounts of success and "wins" in our lives.
That is my hope for you. Thanks for
listening.
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Stuberg New Book
Creating Your Ultimate Destiny at www.jointheevolution.com
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Have a great day.
George Wright III