Sep 15, 2023
All right, guys, we're going to get right into it today. I hope you're having an amazing week so far and you're looking forward to continuing to follow your purpose and mission over the weekend here. But I want to talk to you about something I was thinking about this morning, and that is the idea that confidence is overrated.
Let me just tell you that one more time. Confidence is overrated. Now, I know what you're thinking, this can't be coming from George Wright because you're one of the most confident guys out there. And that would be true. I am pretty confident. But, Here's the bottom line. How many of you believe that your confidence is the real key to growing your business and becoming more successful?
What if I told you that it wasn't the most important thing? See, you know growing up in life and business . I always prioritized confidence. I knew that if I just Acted as if, right? You've heard that before. Act as if, act confident. In fact, I would have people tell me all the time.
It's you're so cocky and I'd say, no, it's not cocky. It's confident. So I even really promoted confidence. And the bottom line is because of that, I was able to really just steamroll through success and make things happen. I would come into rooms where I was doing business completely scared to death, not knowing what I was doing, but I would just act.
Confident. And I would have success. It's one of the reasons why I got the deals with, Trump and Robbins and Kiyosaki. And it's why I did events all over the world. It's why I grew a nutrition company, apparel company. Like it's because of the confidence not only to create success, but have people attracted to you.
People get attracted to confidence. Most times it was really just a false sense of confidence. Most times it was the fake it till you make it syndrome. And what I really had was I just had belief in myself. That I was going to figure it out. And as I grew older, I started to recognize the difference between confidence, self doubt, or, self worth.
And confidence, I realized, really only truly grows. Your real stable, solid confidence only grows through your experience. It only grows through your actions. And but how can you have confidence in something when you're constantly operating outside your comfort zone if you haven't experienced it and you haven't done it?
You don't know whether you can do it. You can't truly have real confidence that you can do it because at the end of the day, you're operating outside your comfort zone. You're operating in areas that you can't be confident in. Are we talking about real confidence or are we talking about a fear? fake false sense of confidence.
So you're going into situations and you only have what I've really realized is just belief in yourself and your ability to figure it out. Belief in yourself and your ability to figure it out. Then when you get through that situation, whether it's a win or a loss, a success or a failure, you're still going to gain confidence because You're learning, you're growing, you're developing you're adding your resistance to the fear because now you know you can make it through it and you won't actually die speaking on stage in front of 3, 000 people.
So that's when you gain real confidence is after you do things. So if you need confidence to do things but you don't have it, what does that mean? It's this idea of this equation I always talk about. Your belief in yourself is what leads you to take action. And those actions... Or those results, or those experiences, that will validate.
Or grow or change your belief, which will affect and grow your confidence. Does that make sense? It's really the belief in yourself and your abilities that's going to get you success in business because that's all you're going to have to help you to take action. And then as you take action, your confidence will grow.
Now, there are things you can do to artificially grow your confidence or your belief in yourself. I hope you're understanding the distinction here, your belief in yourself up front. And let me give you a couple of those. Number one is... Prepare and learn ahead of time. If you're scared of speaking on stage, practice.
If you don't feel comfortable in a room of experts, learn the skill. When you prepare and learn your artificial confidence is going to increase. Another thing you can do is, and listen to me when I say this, focus on your ability to adapt and overcome. Everything in your life you couldn't think you were going to do or you weren't going to make it through, you made it through.
Everything in your life that was new to you, you figured out. Just have faith and belief that you'll figure it out, and that will help increase that artificial confidence. And the last thing is, decide that your self worth is not the issue. See, many of you feel like you lack confidence, and you're really just lacking self worth.
Or self doubt is creeping in. Doubt can be eliminated when you start to prepare and learn and you focus on your ability to overcome. But self worth, you need to make a decision and you need to decide that you have. Intrinsic value, regardless of any outside influence, regardless of the haters or the trolls that are on your social media, regardless of the family or the friends that don't believe in you, it doesn't matter because you have worth.
You have greatness. We all have greatness. You have innate abilities inside you that will help you to become a better version of yourself. And that is all you need for self worth is to believe and make the decision you have intrinsic value. And when you have that combined with preparation and focusing on your ability to overcome and adapt, you're going to have that enough confidence to move into action, get through it, and increase your confidence.
Those are the things. It's easy. Look. These things are easy when you have these burdens, when you realize and break down what it is you're trying to accomplish. Take the risks. Take action, because over time your action and your risks will pay dividends in your confidence. The confidence is going to come back and pay dividends for you.
I can tell you from experience that, this is why I've been able to grow educational companies all over the world with celebrities, authors. Private equity groups. There were times I went into conversations with private equity groups that completely intimidated me. I didn't have a Harvard education.
I didn't have all the P&Ls under control, but I learned that I was going to overcome regardless and that I had value and that I was going to figure it out. And that false sense of confidence, which later became real deep confidence happened. And now no one intimidates me. There's nobody that intimidates me and no one should intimidate you.
So what happens if your confidence drops? What are you going to do? What do you, if you right now feel like you haven't been winning, you've been getting a lot of L's. Those are losses. And you just haven't been getting the wins. What do you do? Immediately go back to your daily rituals because you've got to create consistency in doing the things that help you feel, act, and be better, and be a better version of yourself.
Plus, you'll feel a sense of accomplishment. Go back to your daily rituals. The other thing you need to do is start taking more action, not less. Most people, when they start to fear and have self doubt and lack of confidence, they pull back. You should be pushing forward because more things are going to happen.
More lessons are going to be learned. Your confidence will start to grow again. Your confidence can't grow when you're pulling back. It can't grow when you're not taking action. And then finally remind yourself of your wins. I do it myself. Have a short list. Have a short list of the things you've done in your life you won and it doesn't have to be just in business.
You've won at your relationships, at your marriage, you graduated, you, accomplished this goal, that goal. You showed up to the gym, you've been consistent, you, whatever it is, stack the wins. Alex Ramosi, I love how he puts it and that is confidence. The best kind of confidence is just looking at a resume of stacked wins.
Your confidence will go up when you can look at a list and go, yeah, I did that. I did that. I did that. I did that. I did that. And if you have not identified a ton of wins and you think you're one of those people that haven't had wins, you're not looking hard enough. You're probably also somebody that isn't grateful for the things you have in your life.
Because when you are grateful and you recognize the wins, you can make a very long laundry list. The fact is you're sitting here today means you've won over and over in your life. So stack the wins and don't rely on confidence take action and Responsibility that you're gonna create your confidence and you will win.
I promise you that so that's my message for today And keep in mind like I always say it's never too late to start living the life. You're meant to live, but you've got to take Responsibility and you've got to decide you create your life and do that I want you to think about these things over the weekend before we come back on Monday I've got some great stuff for you this next week also ironically enough, I'll let you know, I do have a couple more openings in my CEO mentoring schedule.
I, like I said before, I only take on a few clients you got to be vetted but I will vet you personally if you send me an email to george at g3 worldwide. com and if not, it doesn't matter because we're masterminding every single day. I'm looking forward to talking with you more on Monday. I hope you'll reach out.
I hope you'll share this show and once again, my name is George Wright III and this has been The Daily Mastermind. Have a great day.