Oct 21, 2022
"More gold has been mined from the thoughts of men than
has ever been taken from the earth." Napoleon Hill
We often get caught up in traffic or feel frustrated with a
difficult coworker, but it's important to realize that we are not
always conscious of our emotional states. If you don't master your
emotions, then they can take control and lead you down the wrong
path until there is no turning back for yourself emotionally
speaking which will only cause more harm than good when dealing
with other people around us as well!
Love, hate, anger, joy, sadness: Human emotion is
our greatest gift. You don’t want to get rid of emotions –
without them, life is meaningless. But learning how to master
your emotions and use them, instead of letting them use you,
is key to achieving your dreams in every aspect of your life.
Emotional intelligence refers to the ability
to manage your thoughts and feelings. If you have a high degree of
EI, you could read your own emotions pretty well and predict how
they will impact others.
“You will continue to suffer if you have an
emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is
sitting back and observing everything with logic. If words control
you that means everyone can control you. Breathe and allow things
to pass.” – Bruce Lee
Why is emotional mastery so important?
We cannot change our objective experience. Things happen every
day that are outside our control. But we can change our
subjective experience: the meaning that we assign to those
things. That is emotional mastery, and it has a massive impact on
our interpersonal relationships, self-worth, communication
skills, and overall fulfillment in life.
Tony Robbins believes that it takes six steps to
master your emotions.
1. Identify what you’re feeling.
Ask yourself the following questions:
What am I feeling at this moment?
Am I really feeling [specific emotion]?
If not, what am I really feeling?
2. Acknowledge your emotions without
Mastering your emotions does not mean denying them or shutting
down. Instead, it’s important to acknowledge your emotions without
guilt or judgment. Your emotions are part of who you are. If you
make yourself feel that certain emotions are wrong, it can
discourage you from being honest with yourself. This can hinder
your efforts to take control of your thoughts and feelings.
3. What can a particular emotion offer
It’s OK to approach your feelings with curiosity. In fact,
this can help you develop a deeper understanding of them. The more
questions you ask, the better equipped you’ll be to interrupt
disruptive emotions and prevent unproductive emotional
4. Build Your Emotional Confidence.
When I first started practicing emotional mastery, I often
became impatient with my inability to put negative emotions into
check. However, I also gain confidence every time I successfully
managed my emotions and handled tricky situations tactfully, with
full emotional awareness.
5. Allow yourself the certainty that you can handle
This may seem like a lot to unpack. However, you build
confidence by rehearsing different situations and gaining poise and
assurance, which are valuable qualities in themselves. Practicing
this step helped me build confidence and made me feel like a weight
was lifted off my chest when I had to deal with complex situations
and interact with coworkers I rarely agreed with.
6. Get excited about your newfound
Gaining emotional mastery is like finding out you have a
superpower. You should get excited about it and use it for the
greater good. When you find yourself in a difficult situation, take
a breath and remember that you can easily handle whatever emotions
crop up. Then, take action and prove it.
Without mastery of your emotions, you can be the most skilled
worker in the company and have the great technical know-how. But,
It won’t matter how hard you work, If you cannot balance your
emotions and work collaboratively and respectfully with
It’s never too late to start working on your emotional
mastery. By following the steps above, you can begin to take
control of your emotions and respond to difficult situations in a
more productive way. With practice, you’ll find that it gets easier
and easier to remain aware of your emotions and manage them
effectively. Soon, you’ll be a master of your emotions. And that’s
a superpower worth having.
I hope these ideas and thoughts will help you to focus on and
gain mastery over your emotions. Have a great day.
George Wright III